There was a line of people in the bank on a busy Friday morning. It was the first of the month. As seems to be normal there were only two tellers open. At the front of the line was a woman talking on her cell phone. Her turn came and she approached the teller still talking on the phone.
She handed the teller some papers and gave a few words of instruction about what she needed. As the woman continued to talk on the phone the teller asked several times for more details. It appeared as though the teller was interrupting the phone conversation.
When the woman’s banking was done the line had grown by several more folks hoping to quickly get there banking done so they could carry on with their day. The woman left the bank still talking on the phone.
As the next person in line went up to the teller she seemed in a hurry. She sat down and the first thing she said was ‘ can you believe that?!’ She was of course referring to the woman on the phone. ‘How rude!’ She said. The teller agreed and worked on the business at hand. The woman just kept on and on about the rudeness of the lady in front of her. At first everyone in the growing line fully agreed. Now however, they were hoping this woman would just move on and leave.
She finally stood up to leave and then turned back to the teller and began to comment on the rude customers she had encountered at various other places that morning.
The point of the this whole story is that as rude as everyone in that line felt the woman on the phone was they now felt the one going on and on about someone else’s ignorance was equally as rude.
We often say or hear the words, “it’s not about you.” In fact we tell our children this or our family or our friends at times. In that context they are meant to discourage selfishness or for someone to think of others first.
I believe we need to think of these words differently at times. Sometimes it is about you! When it comes to being courteous or helpful or kind to a fellow human being.
I know I am the first one guilty of only applying these words to others. It’s a harsh realization and humbling when I apply them to me. I need to ask myself each day whether I was kind that day or did I make someone’s day better or did I smile and give cheer to someone who may have felt down.
I’ve decided I wish to live by applying them to me first and work each day to show grace and kindness to everyone I come across. It will be hard at times and I will fail at times. But by the grace of God I will try again each day.
©Lisa Bueckert 2013